Having children and grandchildren was once seen as a blessing, and having a large family was considered a symbol of good fortune. Getting married and having kids was a natural part of life, and it was considered a natural law.
However, even in modern times, some people are still struggling to have kids. But there’s a growing trend where people are changing their minds, feeling that they don’t need to take on the responsibility of raising the next generation.
The emergence of DINK (Dual Income, No Kids) families is not a coincidence, and this trend is spreading. Many celebrities, such as Ge You, Liu Qingyun, and Donnie Yen, have chosen not to have kids.
Some of them are passive DINKs, accepting their situation, while others have made a conscious decision not to have kids, preferring to enjoy their freedom and independence.
Recently, Li Jian was asked about his decision not to have kids in an interview. Despite being a graduate of Tsinghua University and having a strong genetic heritage, Li Jian said, “There’s no need to pass on my genes; it’s not a big deal, and I’m not an endangered species.”
This isn’t the first time Li Jian has spoken about his decision not to have kids. In a previous interview, he said, “I’m not ready to be a father; I’m too focused on my music, and I’m a bit selfish. Raising a child takes a lot of time and effort, and I’m not ready for that.”
Li Jian’s explanation reflects the sentiments of many DINK families, who choose not to have kids because they’re afraid of taking on the responsibility and fear that they might not be able to provide a good upbringing.
Whether you’re a celebrity or an ordinary person, having kids is a huge responsibility, and it’s not just about providing financial support. Education is key, and it requires personal effort and dedication. If you’re not willing to put in the effort, it’s irresponsible.
Singer Pu Shu once said, “Life is already tough, and I don’t want to burden my kids with my own struggles. I’m not brave enough to be a father, and I’m worried about the negative influences in the world.”
In the past, not having kids was seen as news, but now it’s becoming more common. Raising kids is not like raising pets; as they grow up, they develop their own thoughts and personalities, and it’s a huge responsibility.
Some people may choose not to have kids because they’re afraid of the added stress and conflict it may bring to their lives, making it hard to balance their work and family life.
On the other hand, some people believe that a family without kids is incomplete, and that having kids is what makes a family whole.
Ultimately, everyone has their own choices and perspectives. Those who choose to have kids are taking on a new challenge, accepting the responsibilities and obligations that come with it. Those who choose not to have kids are prioritizing their own lives and freedom.
Whether you choose to have kids or not, the consequences are yours to bear.
Do DINK families always live happily ever after? The answer is subjective. Director Er Dongsheng, who was once a strong advocate for DINK families, later had a child with someone else after his divorce.
Kang Hui, a famous host, also chose not to have kids, but later expressed regret, saying that if he had the chance, he might choose to have a child. The death of his mother made him realize that he had been selfish and regretful.
Life is full of regrets, and we can’t turn back time. Whatever choices we make, we must face the consequences.
In the end, it’s about being responsible for our own lives and making our own choices. Whether we choose to have kids or not, we must be prepared to take on the responsibilities that come with it.