Everyone has their own unique personality, temper, and experiences joy, anger, sadness, and happiness. We all know the saying that “laughter keeps us young,” but putting it into practice can be difficult. In life, we encounter both joyous and heartbreaking situations, as well as moments that leave us feeling angry and helpless.
Some people are able to control their temper and leave a positive impression on others. They earn respect and make friends more easily.
However, others struggle to control their emotions. They may utter hurtful words in inappropriate situations, ruin a good mood with a pessimistic comment, or insult others over trivial matters. Naturally, people with short tempers find it harder to earn respect and maintain relationships.
When it comes to anger, many situations that initially spark it turn out to be insignificant in retrospect. In the heat of the moment, we often lose control. By maintaining composure, we can resolve many problems more easily.
Remember these three phrases to stay calm:
Be the Master of Your Emotions, Not Their Slave
In the realm of our emotions, many of us remain slaves to their whims. However, we often refuse to acknowledge this fact. A minor incident can make us ecstatic, deeply sadden us, or send us into a fit of rage, causing us to lose all sense and act irrationally. Looking back, we may wonder why we let our emotions spiral out of control over such insignificant matters.
For example, let’s consider a common everyday situation. You’re walking down the street when a stranger accidentally steps on your foot.
Since the incident has already occurred, the best course of action is to offer a sincere apology, accept the stranger’s “sorry,” and move on. However, some people let their anger flare up and demand retribution. They may exchange harsh words or even resort to violence. Such actions only lead to mutual harm, which is obviously a much worse outcome than a trampled foot.
If we can control our emotions, we can avoid unnecessary conflict and spare ourselves potential harm. Therefore, we must remember to be masters of our emotions, not their slaves. By maintaining self-control, we can prevent anger from clouding our judgment and resolve issues rationally.
Anger Punishes You for Others’ Mistakes
My friend Amy’s grandmother is prone to anger. She can dwell on someone’s comment for hours, and if her children don’t call her every day, she gets upset. During family gatherings, she often finds fault with something and ruins everyone’s enjoyment. This creates a vicious cycle: the more the grandmother gets angry, the less her children want to call or visit, and the angrier she becomes.
In reality, many situations can be resolved by adopting a more tolerant perspective. By letting go of petty differences and avoiding unnecessary arguments, we eliminate reasons to get angry. My friend’s grandmother’s tendency to anger contributes to her high blood pressure and other health issues. She simply doesn’t realize that her anger is hurting her own well-being.
Getting angry is essentially punishing yourself for the mistakes of others. Why should we let ourselves suffer for something that someone else did wrong?
Anger Seems Pointless in Hindsight
We’ve all experienced this at some point. In certain situations, we lose control and give in to anger, feeling deeply wronged and wanting to retaliate. But as time passes and our anger subsides, we look back and wonder, “Why did I get so angry? I should have talked it out.” “Why did I waste energy on such a trivial matter?” “My outburst damaged our relationship. It wasn’t worth it at all.”
If we could replay those moments, we’d probably act differently. We might simply express our concerns or have a constructive discussion. There are always better ways to handle situations than resorting to anger.
For example, many couples who deeply love each other let petty quarrels escalate into full-blown arguments. In the heat of the moment, they make impulsive decisions like breaking up.
When their anger subsides and they try to reconcile, they often find that it’s too late. The relationship is beyond repair.
To stay calm, remember these three phrases. When faced with challenges, avoid giving in to anger. Instead, think about these words to regain composure, maintain rational thought, and find the best solution.
Remember, always leave yourself an escape route. Don’t let anger ruin your reputation or destroy your relationships. Once you understand these principles and become the master of your emotions, you’ll realize that life is still beautiful. Without anger, you’ll feel more confident and worthy of respect.