Zachary Lee said:

“You need to understand the script of your own life—it’s not a sequel of your parents, not a prequel of your children, and certainly not a side story of your friends.”

This quote is actually directed at men, highlighting the significant responsibilities they carry throughout their lives to achieve many things.

Some may only see men as being unfaithful in relationships, rational in emotions, or critical towards women in relationships.

However, few also realize that men can sometimes feel overwhelmed.

Many things in life often change without one’s wishes. Misfortunes that were once thought to belong to others can suddenly become close to us. The path ahead is unpredictable, and the pain of life can unknowingly surround us, challenging our will.

“A man sheds no tears lightly, only when his heart is broken.”

Everyone has a vulnerable side, and there are things that can crush a man.

Family

Nathan Johnson said:

“There is no one in this world without scars. The only one who can truly heal oneself is oneself.”

Issues can easily arise within a family, and a man’s greatest effort is often for the sake of his family.

Why do men get married? It’s because they want to have a home. Once they have a family, they find solace in their hearts. Men play crucial roles in their homes and hold their families in high regard.

In marriage, many men may not love their partners but choose not to divorce for the sake of family unity, enduring compromises.

Sometimes, even if a man betrays his spouse, he won’t seek a divorce because he understands that the family is paramount. Protecting the family is what occupies a man’s mind.

When something goes wrong in a family, it often crushes a man. Even if a man is successful in his career, any issues at home can burden him, affecting his professional life.

If a man’s family is harmonious, with healthy children and elderly relatives, he will find life comfortable.

Last year, a cousin of mine faced a crisis when his mother fell seriously ill and needed heart surgery. He used to be cheerful, but this incident left him depressed, eventually seeking help from a psychologist due to his condition.

He said, “After problems arose at home, I felt crushed, unable to imagine the future or how to move forward.”

When my cousin uttered these words, there was a sense of helplessness in his tone. It’s evident that family issues can crush a man.

Money

During one’s school days, being handsome is crucial. Playing basketball on the court with the wind blowing, hair fluttering, earns cheers from nearby girls.

As one matures and nears marriage age, wealth becomes more important. People are often delighted when selecting partners in school, but things change in society. People you meet are no longer as pure and kind as before!

Women might be attracted to a man’s money rather than his looks or talent.

Money can often crush a man. Many men spend their lives chasing money and power. Even without power, having money ensures survival and the ability to marry.

But without money, life becomes challenging. Money isn’t everything, but the lack of it is a significant limitation, affecting a man’s self-esteem.

Some men miss out on relationships due to financial constraints, while others face conflicts during marriage over dowry, leading to separation.

Health Issues

Health is crucial. If one’s health deteriorates, it significantly impacts one’s life.

Men face immense psychological pressure when their health declines, affecting their ability to earn. This, in turn, increases the burden on their families, with some bedridden men relying solely on their wives for support.

Therefore, a man’s health issues can paralyze an entire family.

Health is vital. Men must prioritize their health when young to avoid burdening their loved ones after marriage.

Eileen Chang said, “A mature person often finds fewer people to blame. Everyone has their difficulties.”

Being a man comes with its challenges, and at times, one might feel overwhelmed.

Adults often teach boys, “A real man doesn’t cry and must protect others.”

Thus, from a young age, men develop a habit of being strong and may not share their struggles. However, deep down, they could already be crushed.

In our ordinary lives, pain is like a tack that slowly pricks our hearts as time advances. Each of us carries a wound within that, at a certain moment, might be crushing. Therefore, men, too, need love and care from others.