In life, everyone has friends, interacts with people around them, whether they are friends, lovers, or family. Sometimes, when evaluating a relationship, you tend to think that your relationship with this person is better than with your significant other, or that no matter what happens, your best friend or family will always stand by you.

But one day, when you encounter a tricky situation or touch their interests or family, you realize that the person you thought would stand by you, didn’t choose you. At that moment, you will feel deeply disappointed.

Sometimes, in social interactions, we tend to assume that others think the same way we do. But reality can be harsh. After all, everyone is different, with different perspectives.

Amy and Kate have been close sisters since they were young, as they are also relatives. From childhood to adulthood, they were very close. Amy is assertive, and Kate usually goes along with her, thinking that her sister is always right. So, they rarely argue when they are together.

This dynamic continued even after they got married. Amy, being more assertive, had an easier time because she always knew what she wanted from a young age. On the other hand, Kate didn’t have it as easy. Her submissive nature led her to suffer from her in-laws after marriage, often ending up in tears. Amy felt sorry for her sister and wanted to stand up for her.

However, when Amy confronted her sister’s husband, Kate sided with him, which infuriated Amy. She was trying to help her sister and couldn’t believe she was being accused of meddling.

Amy finally saw clearly the true nature of their relationship and understood why Kate was so unhappy. It was because of Kate’s lack of assertiveness and her willingness to say hurtful things to her good friend for a man who didn’t love her.

In some cases, personal interests outweigh the value of relationships. What you think is best for someone may not be what they think is best for themselves. They might believe that your interference would only worsen their situation with their in-laws.

So, no matter how close the relationship, it’s best not to meddle in personal matters, especially in family conflicts. You can offer guidance, but you shouldn’t get involved. Otherwise, they might blame you for their unhappiness and even turn against you when it comes to family matters, regardless of how good your relationship is. This relationship is limited to the two of you and should not involve others.

Mike and Chris have been close friends since childhood and lived in the same neighborhood. They had always been inseparable. As they grew older and started their own families, they often had meals together. Mike was a go-getter and, within a few years after graduating, he had his own company and several properties.

During this time, he also helped Chris a lot. Mike always said, “As long as I have food, you’ll have food too.” Chris, being more reserved, felt envious of Mike’s growing wealth but never expressed it openly.

In business, there are ups and downs. With Mike’s help, Chris also accumulated a considerable amount of wealth. However, Chris was more cautious and didn’t dare to invest as boldly as Mike did, so he had a more stable journey.

But when Mike faced a financial setback due to a failed investment, he needed extra funds to turn things around. He thought Chris, his lifelong friend, would surely help him. However, when Mike asked, Chris said he couldn’t lend him the money as he was facing his own financial difficulties.

Mike couldn’t believe that after so many years of helping Chris, he wouldn’t be willing to help him in return. Chris did have the money to lend, but his envy led him to believe that Mike always stole his spotlight. He felt uncomfortable and thought that by not helping Mike, he would prevent him from overshadowing him in the future.

This is the absurdity of self-esteem. Just because of a little jealousy, a good friend is left in a desperate situation. Mike had been hoping not to ask Chris for help if he could avoid it. After all, he had a weak tolerance for disappointment, but he never expected that his lifelong friend wouldn’t want to help at all.

Sometimes, the human heart is truly unfathomable. You may think that by treating someone well, they will do the same for you, but unfortunately, that’s not always the case. When you overestimate your relationship with someone, you might expect understanding and support, but in the end, all you get is disappointment. When you place your utmost trust in someone, you might not receive assistance, but a fatal blow instead.

As the saying goes, “A man’s heart is as inscrutable as a closed book.” When you overestimate your relationship with someone, you will only be in for a big “surprise,” which might even challenge your beliefs, only to realize that you were wrong, not them. It’s your mistake for trusting someone so easily and misjudging them. It’s your failure to understand people, and you only have yourself to blame.