One proverb goes:
“A kind word warms up three winters; a hurtful word chills six Junes.”
Communication is an art. People with high emotional intelligence know how to interact with others.
Some people care about others and are kind, but end up offending many due to their words.
Others may not do much but speak well, making friends easily and gaining everyone’s favor.
“Everyone likes to hear good things; no one likes to hear bad things.”
Regardless of nationality, people dislike hearing negative comments about themselves and feel happy hearing positive ones.
Individuals with high emotional intelligence understand this well. They always speak kindly to others and never use words to offend.
When someone offends another with words, they gain nothing but lose a potential friend.
Those who often say these four phrases are usually high in emotional intelligence.
Your idea is good
I remember working part-time in college. There was a situation where a teacher made a mistake by informing students in a group chat that there would be classes the next day when, in fact, it was a holiday.
Many parents came to the school the next day to drop off their children, causing embarrassment.
The principal, upon learning about the situation, sternly asked the teacher to handle it. The teacher had to call the parents, explain the mistake, and apologize.
The understanding parents, upon hearing the teacher’s explanation, left without making a fuss.
Later, the principal praised the teacher’s handling of the situation, showing appreciation rather than blame.
The principal’s high emotional intelligence was evident in such situations. Some leaders, even if a mistake is rectified, criticize their subordinates excessively, which can be demoralizing.
Learning to appropriately praise others’ ideas can save face for both parties and avoid awkwardness.
You are very smart
People like being praised for their intelligence because it’s a compliment.
When someone says, “You did it right,” it may bring some joy, but being called “very smart” is more rewarding as it signifies recognition.
Praising someone’s intelligence not only acknowledges their actions but also boosts their self-esteem and fosters a sense of friendship.
Smart individuals often use this phrase to praise others, showcasing their high emotional intelligence. Those who struggle to accept others’ success often lack emotional intelligence, creating a negative impression.
It’s comfortable working with you
Working with someone who expresses dissatisfaction can be tormenting. However, if they say, “It’s very comfortable working with you,” the collaboration becomes enjoyable.
High emotional intelligence individuals constantly praise others, making it easier to overlook mistakes and maintain a harmonious working relationship.
Emotional intelligence plays a crucial role in leaving a positive impression on others.
No problem, you go first
Some people habitually interrupt others or dominate conversations, causing discomfort. By saying, “No problem, you go first,” you show flexibility and respect.
In conversations and tasks, letting others go first demonstrates respect and can lead to positive interactions.
High emotional intelligence individuals learn to be considerate, fostering mutual respect and cooperation.
People who frequently use these four phrases typically possess high emotional intelligence. Working with them feels comfortable, and their influence can enhance your emotional intelligence as well.