A few years ago, I heard an advertisement slogan:

“Fate is determined by the heavens, but happiness is your own.”

Many people or things meet by fate, but whether they can hold onto happiness depends on oneself.

A friend once told me:

“Why did I choose this man instead of others? Because this man looks very honest.”

When women meet many suitors, they always want to find an honest man, thinking that such a person will bring stability and security to the relationship.

My friend is very beautiful and has many pursuers, but many of them cannot provide her with a sense of security.

Although some men she met seemed very impressive, making her feel that they were outstanding, my friend felt even more inferior and insecure around them.

Later, my friend met her current boyfriend. Although he is not outstanding and not particularly tall or handsome,

She developed a liking for him solely because he made her feel secure.

She said:

“Although he is not handsome, he always informs me before doing anything. I know his passwords, and he is very honest with me. That’s why I want to be with him.”

In this world, there are no so-called honest people. A man who stands out among many suitors does not rely on wealth or appearance; he is definitely not an ordinary man.

This kind of person may not only be not honest but also very intelligent.

It seems like this person makes you feel that he is very honest with you because he tells you everything and seems transparent to you.

However, this kind of person understands women’s minds better. In love, a woman’s first choice is security. When a man tells a woman everything, she feels very secure. So, based on this alone, other suitors are passed over.

A man who impresses a woman with his honesty and sincerity is an extraordinary man.

This kind of man is smarter than a man who flaunts his wealth or good looks. He is also more capable of holding onto happiness. This kind of man is the real tough guy.

I watched a variety show like this once.

A man had an affair with his female colleague three years ago because of a business trip.

When the man’s wife found out about it, she did not make a scene, confront the female colleague, or ask for a divorce.

She continued to do household chores as usual, work as usual, and take care of the children and her in-laws.

At that time, many people thought that this woman was too honest. Her husband did something wrong, yet she remained calm.

After a long time, the man who had the affair and the other woman’s relationship became stronger, and he actively proposed to divorce his wife.

At this point, the seemingly very honest wife suddenly fought back. She collected a lot of evidence about her husband and the other woman, took it to court, and then got the child, the house, the car, and all the property.

In the end, the unfaithful man left with nothing, while the woman lived a very happy life, having a house, a car, a job, children, and money.

In fact, when she found out about her husband’s affair, this man’s wife pretended to be very honest, continued to live her life as usual, but secretly started collecting evidence.

There are many low-key people in this world. These people keep a low profile but earn others’ respect when they encounter situations.

People who handle things modestly can often hold onto their happiness; they are intelligent tough guys.

I once heard an elderly person tell their story.

When they were young, they had too many children, so when the family split, it caused a lot of trouble.

When the family was being divided, the eldest son did not want the parents to live with him, thinking that the parents would be a burden as they got older.

But at this time, the youngest son voluntarily asked the parents to stay with him.

At that time, the other siblings thought that the youngest son was very honest and had found two burdens for himself.

But a few years later, the youngest son had children, and he had to go to the city to work. The parents were happy to take care of the youngest son’s children, while the eldest son’s children’s parents were not willing to do so.

Many people understand that only if you are good to me will I be good to you.

A person who is not even filial to their own parents will naturally not receive kindness from their parents.

As the saying goes, giving others a way is giving yourself a way. When you wholeheartedly love your parents, they will also love your children wholeheartedly.

When you work away from home, your parents help take care of your children to solve your worries. This is the happiness of a family.

Such a person not only gains respect in terms of reputation but also receives support from their parents in life.

They hold onto their own happiness, their parents’ happiness, and their children’s happiness, thus proving their capability. Some seemingly honest people actually have hidden agendas.

These people understand what they want and don’t want. They pretend to be very honest in matters they don’t care about, but when it comes to things they care about, they seem honest on the surface but have already made preparations in secret.

I often hear people say:

“This person is honest, so everyone is willing to be with them.”

But think about it, if a person is truly honest and listens to everything others say, and believes everything others say,

How happy can you be with such a person? People who can hold onto happiness are definitely not ordinary honest people. You need to slowly appreciate these people; they are smarter than ordinary people.