Love as a Journey of Understanding

Today when I was scrolling through my social media feed, I came across a post that said: “Never love someone too much, or else you might end up losing yourself.”

When I read that, I felt really uneasy. I mean, loving someone wholeheartedly should be a happy thing, right? So why does it sometimes end up causing unhappiness?

I have a very close friend whom I’ve known for almost 20 years. We were classmates in junior high, high school, and college. We were lucky to study together all those years, and she always considered me her best friend and confided in me about everything.

Back in our sophomore year of college, she started dating a guy. She was so excited and shared the news with me right away, and I was happy for her because I thought she finally found a guy who would take good care of her.

Actually, it was the guy who pursued her at first. She didn’t have a good impression of him at the beginning, but over time, she was won over by him.

They officially became a couple, and as time went on, she fell deeper in love with him. She’s a stubborn girl, but she changed a lot for him. She even learned how to cook for him and did everything to make him happy. She even told me that she planned to marry him after graduation.

I admired their relationship, but I also warned her to be cautious in love and not to regret her decisions. I wanted her to be happy more than anything.

Time flew by, and before we knew it, three years had passed, and we were about to graduate. But on our graduation day, she told me they had broken up. I was surprised because I thought they had a great relationship.

At first, I thought she was joking, but then she started crying like a child, and I realized that she was truly heartbroken. She held onto me and cried. I knew she loved him a lot, but from what she said, I knew it was the guy who disappointed her.

Three years of love, but in the end, it was the trivial everyday matters that crushed their relationship.

Some might say she was overreacting, but I believe love grows over time, and indifference accumulates over time. When a person accumulates enough disappointment, they will not hesitate to leave. I knew it was hard for her to break up, but if it wasn’t for too much disappointment, she wouldn’t have let go.

As she cried, she said to me, “I really liked him, but everything he did made me have to give up on him.”

It was the first time I saw her so heartbroken. Before that, she was always cheerful and outgoing in front of us, but this breakup hurt her deeply, and I still remember it vividly, even after all this time.

Now she has found her own happiness, but I know this breakup was a big hurdle for her. I just want to tell everyone in love that love and disappointment accumulate slowly. When someone loves you deeply, you need to give them more care and love. Don’t wait until they accumulate enough disappointment to regret it.

Because by then, even if you get back what you lost, things won’t be the same. Some girls only turn back after hitting a wall, but I hope all guys won’t let the girls hit that wall.

If loving someone is a 10, I hope you use 7 to love the person and keep 3 for yourself. When you love someone too much, you tend to ignore your own feelings and thoughts.

As the saying goes, love is like sand in your hand. The tighter you hold it, the faster it slips away. Love is a long and gentle stream, and we should cherish it. Maybe one or two disappointments won’t destroy a relationship, but when disappointment accumulates, the other person might lose hope.

Love cares about everything and forgives everything. When someone loves you enough, a few things shouldn’t become the spark that ruins your relationship. But when disappointment accumulates, a person’s heart loses its direction and the courage to love again.

Time is a magical thing. It can change a lot. When two people spend more and more time together, all their shortcomings become apparent. In the beginning, we see each other’s strengths, but over time, their weaknesses also become visible.

Some people are willing to forgive you repeatedly, but everyone has their limit. Some things may seem insignificant, but over time, disappointment can become the sharpest weapon to break someone’s heart.

If you love someone, don’t hurt them with these trivial matters. Being together should be happy and joyful. If love makes you unhappy, then it has lost its meaning.

We hope that as time goes by, the person by your side will love you more and we also hope that you will prove your love through actions, not by hurting them to make them leave.