Only when you truly have the ability, will others truly admire you.

In life, there is often the situation of “yin sheng yang shuai” (dominance of the feminine and decline of the masculine).

I have a close friend who is in such a situation. Her mother is very dominant, so everything in the family is decided by her mother.

My friend told me that one time, her father had to socialize outside, so he came back late due to business meetings. When he returned, her mother didn’t prepare dinner for him, but instead scolded him.

This kind of thing happened more than once. Since her mother married her father, it has always been like this.

My friend said that when her mother gets angry, she would throw high heels at her father, but her father still wouldn’t blame her.

Normally, such a dominant woman must have achieved something in her career. However, the reality is quite the opposite.

Although my friend’s mother is very dominant, she is not doing well in her career. Her superiors do not like her, and her colleagues do not get along with her.

Every time my friend and I sit together, she tells me about her mother’s story, thinking that her mother is a very impressive person because her father listens to everything her mother says.

However, I don’t think so. Whether a woman is impressive or not does not depend on whether she is dominant, but on whether she has true abilities.

Even if a woman is very dominant and makes everyone in the family obey her, if she lacks true abilities, she won’t become an impressive person.

Independence

A truly independent person does not meddle in others’ lives.

People often associate independence with dominance in life.

Some would say, “Because my wife is independent, I have to listen to her.”

In reality, a truly independent person is not like that, as Huang Xiaoming said: a truly independent person does not arbitrarily arrange others’ lives.

Because they are independent, they understand the importance of independence and expect to be respected. There is an old saying in China: “Do not do unto others what you do not want done to yourself.”

A relatively independent person does not like being constrained by others. Naturally, they also know how to respect others’ lives without interfering.

A woman who is independent is worth the best. She knows what she wants and respects others. An independent woman knows what direction to strive for and can achieve her dreams without relying on a man’s help.

In today’s society, many people emphasize gender equality. So, if a woman only depends on a man and cannot be independent, she won’t be respected by others.

A woman who is independent in her thoughts and financially does not rely on a man is more useful than a dominant woman. She is more likely to earn others’ respect.

Having Principles

Once, I went to a store to buy something. There was a customer bargaining with the shopkeeper, but the shopkeeper said, “All items are priced and not open to bargaining.”

However, the customer disagreed and persisted in haggling, hoping the shopkeeper would offer a lower price. In the end, the shopkeeper refused to sell.

In many cases, we compromise due to emotions or for the sake of benefits, which only erodes our bottom line.

A principled person will earn others’ respect and won’t easily be bullied.

As a woman, you shouldn’t show weakness. Sometimes, don’t do things you are unwilling to compromise on.

There are many helplessness in life, and sometimes you have to yield. But yielding may not necessarily make you more comfortable; it might lead you into a bigger abyss.

So, women should remember to maintain their principles in their actions. This kind of woman is truly impressive.

Good at Socializing

In life, people often say, “Just focus on what you’re doing and don’t meddle in others’ affairs.”

In fact, a person who is good at socializing will gain a lot because they will have many opportunities. When you socialize, you will meet more people and broaden your horizons. A woman who frequently socializes will also advance herself.

Some women, although talented, have a small circle, so their talents have nowhere to shine.

So, impressive women know how to socialize. By meeting and knowing more people, they will not only improve themselves but also create opportunities to elevate themselves.

I once heard a writer say: “When your ability does not match your ambition, you have to work harder.”

As a woman, when your abilities do not match your dominance, you should work on improving yourself instead of demanding from others.

Controlling others may make you feel important, but it’s not the best way to live. This kind of life won’t highlight how impressive you are, and instead, people around you will feel that you are not worth getting close to.

This approach will also exhaust the people around you. A person should have self-awareness. If a woman doesn’t have much ability but is still dominant, she should take the time to reflect.

Because only someone with true abilities can command respect without being forceful. When you speak, others will willingly listen. Without true abilities, even if you are dominant and make others superficially submissive, they will secretly despise you.