Our life is divided into the first half and the second half. Some people spend their entire first half working for their families. Once they pass the age of 50, life enters the second half. After the age of 50, having experienced hardships and setbacks, we may have a different understanding of life.
In the first half of life, we compete against time, but in the second half, we need patience.
After turning 50, don’t obsess over these three things, or your later years will be bleak.
Stop Asking Why People Leave You
I once saw in a video that as we grow older, we realize that we no longer need to ask why people leave us. Instead, we just need to thank those who stay.
In reality, no one is indispensable. What we can’t let go of is the once wholehearted sincerity. I really like a quote from Hayao Miyazaki, “Remember those who are kind to you, as they could have chosen not to be. When the person accompanying you is about to leave, even if you feel reluctant, you should be grateful, wave goodbye, and move on.”
Life is a non-stop journey. Along the road of life, we will encounter various people. Some will stay in our hearts, while others will just be passing by.
After the age of 50, we see through many things in life. When we were young, we cared about winning or losing, arguing right from wrong. But as we age and gain experience, we won’t dwell on many things anymore.
I once saw a scene in a movie where the male lead was leaving, and the female lead remained calm instead of crying or making a scene like she did in the past when he mentioned breaking up. When he asked her why she was so composed this time, she calmly replied, “Things that don’t belong to me, even if I try to hold on, are useless.”
On the path of life, it’s true. We understand the big truths, but sometimes we still find it hard to let go. The sun doesn’t suddenly set.
Once we see through many things, we understand that meaningless entanglements only cheapen ourselves.
Some people can only accompany us for a while; some need to get off halfway. Sometimes we may agonize over the reasons, but in the end, we can let go calmly.
As time passes, we realize that cherishing those around us without dwelling on the past is the best way to live.
Don’t Obsess Over Age
Mindset is always the most important. Only by not fearing societal judgments can we truly be ourselves.
Young people think old people are fools; while old people understand that young people are foolish.—George Chapman
Age is not scary; what’s scary is not daring to face it. Age should not limit us because a youthful mindset is priceless.
There’s a saying: if there’s elegance in the heart, time never defeats beauty.
In the face of beauty, age often doesn’t matter because the younger your mindset, the more exciting your life becomes. In 2019, there were several internet-famous grandmas who exuded confidence, fashion, elegance, and grace, showcasing their beauty to the audience. One grandma who left a deep impression on me was Grandma Wang.
She wore a red dress and performed various challenging dance moves on stage with her male partner, not losing to young girls at all. Many viewers praised her, and Grandma Wang gained numerous fans.
Now, Grandma has become an internet sensation, not only sharing her secrets of staying young but also spreading positive energy. Her confidence and optimism are inspiring and influencing many viewers.
This kind of beauty and confidence cannot be bought with money. So, age has nothing to do with beauty. As long as you have a confident, positive, and optimistic mindset, you can become the person you want to be at any age.
Age is the sediment of time; it makes you more charming. However, age should not be an excuse for our development. Keep striving forward to live a fulfilling life.
Don’t Worry About Others’ Opinions
Being overly concerned about others’ opinions will only lead you astray. Caring too much about societal judgments will eventually ruin you. Learning to be yourself is the right choice.
At a certain age, one should learn to please oneself because relying solely on others is unreliable. Only by continuously improving yourself can life get better.
Others’ opinions should not dictate our thoughts because life is ours, and it’s not about others. Whether life is good or bad depends on us, so we must rely on our efforts.
Living a life that cares too much about others’ opinions is far from perfect. Understanding how to please yourself is the key to happiness.
At a certain age, we must learn to let go of unworthy people and things, unnecessary relationships, and tired souls. Give yourself a break, and only then will your life become happier.