Back in college, there was a classmate in the dorm who always boasted about how amazing her family relatives were.

Whether in the dorm or in class, she would always brag about her family relatives.

No matter how capable her family relatives were, they weren’t hers, so there was no need to show off.

“Many relatives seek benefits from other relatives. When their wishes aren’t fulfilled, they turn against each other.”

The thinnest thing in this world is human relationships, and nothing is colder than the human heart.

Friends can be like that, and so can relatives.

That’s why many people say: “Even with close relatives, don’t expose these weaknesses, because human relationships are as fragile as paper.”

Don’t Reveal Your Wealth

As the saying goes: “Money makes the world go round.”

Besides family, relatives are probably the closest people to us in life.

Relatives may be close to us, but money is more important.

Many people always like to show off their wealth in front of relatives.

When I was young, my father worked in a factory, doing hard work every day as an ordinary employee.

At that time, my father’s sister had three daughters studying, so she kept borrowing money from my father.

Every year, my father lent all his earnings to his sister, who only visited to borrow money for her children.

Later, other siblings also borrowed money from my father. Thinking they were family, my father lent money to them too.

But in 2008, my father suddenly fell ill and was diagnosed with leukemia during an out-of-town check-up.

At that time, those who borrowed money from us not only refused to repay but also avoided us.

Many of them actually hoped my father wouldn’t recover so they could deny the debt if he passed away.

My father also had friends outside who, upon hearing about his illness, avoided him as well.

Human emotions are so fragile. It’s only when you face a serious illness that you realize how shallow family relationships can be.

Later, my parents overcame the difficulties together, and my father’s health improved.

Afterward, my father vowed to keep his wealth private and not disclose how much money he had to anyone.

When you lend money to others, many people don’t understand gratitude.

When you want to help your relatives, you’ll realize how shallow family relationships can be.

People are selfish, prioritizing their interests and valuing money more than family.

So, don’t be overconfident that your relatives will necessarily value you highly; sometimes, they are even more selfish than you.

Don’t Turn to Relatives at the First Sign of Trouble

In life, one must look ahead. Only when you are strong will you have a say among relatives.

During the Chinese New Year, many relatives gather for a meal.

Unexpectedly, relatives can be quite cliquey. Once, a brother encountered some problems at home: his parents fell ill, and his own health deteriorated.

This brother used to have a good family and a good job, but due to these issues, he had to quit his job.

During the annual New Year meal, everyone used to warmly greet this brother, but this year was different.

Everyone became indifferent to him after learning about his troubles. Although they initially expressed sympathy, they soon ignored him and chatted among themselves, leaving him alone.

Eating with relatives used to be enjoyable, with plenty of delicious food. But now, it feels bitter.

Having a meal with relatives, you’ll realize how indifferent human relationships can be.

You may have thought that relatives were like ropes intertwined with you, but you’ll realize they’re more like vines: climbing up when you’re doing well and avoiding you when you’re not.

Therefore, no matter what difficulties I encounter now, I won’t actively seek help from relatives.

Because even if you turn to relatives, they may not help you, but they will definitely look down on you.

Don’t casually share family matters with relatives

Some people tend to confide family matters in relatives when they encounter problems.

Once, my neighbor did this.

After a quarrel with her daughter-in-law, she ran to her daughter and complained.

Unexpectedly, the daughter also reacted strongly and ended up slapping her daughter-in-law upon learning about her mother’s distress.

This small family matter could have been resolved in a few days, but when the mother went to her daughter and other relatives got involved, it spiraled out of control.

Don’t air your family’s dirty laundry. Your relatives are the closest to you, so don’t share these matters with others. Despite being close to your relatives, they are distant compared to your immediate family.

Families also have boundaries, let alone relatives.

Sometimes you’ll find that a close friend is better than many relatives.

Some time ago, I fell ill with kidney stones. While I was in the hospital, our relatives were nearby but pretended not to know.

At that time, my middle school best friend came to see me; even my high school best friend visited me, along with many others.

Many people came to see me, to take care of me, except our relatives.

Some weaknesses should not be exposed to relatives.