Writing a Miscellaneous Essay to Share Some Knowledge

I heard a long time ago that every man has a scar on his index finger, supposedly from birth.

Do you believe it?

If you don’t, you can check your own index finger for scars, either on your left hand or right hand.

I bet you’re examining your hand right now.

So, if you do have one, do you agree with this “from birth” explanation?

Last night, my husband and I were chatting with classmates in a group chat, and we happened to discuss this topic.

From what I observed, many female classmates also have a thin scar on their fingers, and of course, I have one too.

At first glance, this phenomenon does seem quite unbelievable, a bit mysterious. It even makes people inexplicably anxious, as if it really is from birth.

Classmates shared their views, and it turned into a joking session.

Some said it’s a mark of genetics, some said it’s a mark from past lives, and others said it’s a sign of awakening, indicating an imminent ascension…

Of course, it was all jokes, getting more and more absurd. In the end, even “fairy realm,” “god realm,” and “great heavenly calamity” were brought up. I don’t know how men can have such wild imaginations, almost like a talent.

My husband said: “Stop joking around, it’s called a mark of three lives. You guys must owe some emotional debt. Actually, I have one too, don’t know when it appeared. Maybe I owed a love debt in my past life, leaving behind this scar in this life to constantly remind me of owing a woman. In my past life, I vowed that if I meet a girl with the same scar as me in the next life, I will marry her. I owed her in the past life, so I must compensate her well in this life, whether she agrees or not.”

His explanation was simply even more absurd.

Classmates said: “You’re quite daring, your junior sister is right in front of you, and you dare to speak nonsense.”

My husband said: “I haven’t finished yet. I just noticed, your junior sister also has a scar on her index finger. Is it destiny or coincidence, fate or science? This is called fate, destined to be together from past lives. How come I have such good luck? I was so worried back then, afraid of being single, but it turns out it was already arranged…”

I must say, if a man is determined to talk endlessly, he really can go on and on, turning into a public speaker with just one mouthful.

Although it’s all in jest, the words are quite appealing. Women, who wouldn’t want to hear their husband talk about some good ‘destiny theory’?

I’ve long noticed that when it comes to being talkative, women just can’t beat their husbands.

Perhaps that’s just a talent men possess, speaking confidently without needing a script, and speaking very convincingly, all based on actual truths.

Getting back on track, this morning at work, I told my colleagues about the topic from the night before.

One of the sisters said: “Theoretically speaking, if a man wants to be romantic, then we women have nothing to do with it. Men’s sweet words can fool many women, but women’s sweet words can hardly fool men, this is an example. But when it comes to scars on fingers, it’s not that mystical, there’s a reasonable explanation.”

According to statistics, the phenomenon of “scars on fingers” follows a “staggered” distribution based on age.

For men, the general rule is this: the earlier they were born, the higher the probability of having a scar on their index finger.

A scar represents a past injury, so when you think about this seemingly mysterious phenomenon, it’s not actually that mystical upon further thought.

The reason behind saying “every man has a scar on his finger” is quite amusing. When most men were still boys, they generally loved to play and were quite mischievous.

On the contrary, girls were more quiet and obedient as children, generally less mischievous than boys. Therefore, overall, women having scars on their index fingers doesn’t seem as common as it does with men.

This explanation makes sense, just as I thought. It’s pretty much on point, that’s probably how it is.

If a person had unlimited memory, then each scar on their finger could be traced back, not something they were born with. It all comes down to the fact that men were quite playful as children, always wanting to explore, it would be strange if they didn’t get a few injuries.

It’s quite embarrassing to admit, but I was probably even more mischievous as a child than most boys. Growing up in the countryside, I was quite tough, skilled in climbing trees and swimming in rivers.

Before fourth grade, I often made some boys from the village cry…

During summer, I always looked forward to the rain. After a heavy rain, I would go to the woods to catch “cicada monkeys.” If I saw a small hole on the ground, I would want to dig into it. If I was lucky, I could catch a pound or two of “cicada monkeys” in a day. I would fry them at home, filling the house with a pleasant aroma.

But now, I’ve become more timid, haven’t dared to do that in years.

There are gains and losses, the gains are considerable, but so are the costs! One time, I scraped off a layer of skin on my index finger, and inexplicably left a scar…

Using psychology to explain this phenomenon, it can be likened to an indiscriminate “cognitive trap.”

Many of people’s habitual activities are maintained by the subconscious “navigation mode.” The more times you repeat the same habit, even small probability events accumulate into high probabilities, even certainties.

This high probability arises from random stacking, something you’re not even aware of. Sometimes you can cut your finger and not feel pain for a long time, only realizing the pain when you accidentally see the cut.

The index finger is the most commonly used, having a scar is quite normal, not that mysterious.

Of course, if we look at it from a romantic perspective, joking about this topic makes it more mysterious, but let’s not dwell on that.

If you were to survey, you would find that the probability of scars appearing on the fingers of those born after 2000 is much lower than those born after 1990. The reason is simple, those born after 2000 weren’t as playful as those born after 1990, or perhaps they didn’t have the same opportunities.

In many rural areas today, many games that 90s kids played have become outdated for those born after 2000 and 2010. In their eyes, what’s fun about a phone?

Even many games played by 90s kids in their childhood have long been “lost” for many years, only remaining as legends…

Therefore, using psychology to explain “finger scars” can be attributed to the cumulative effect of the “navigation mode.”

Usually, you’re not even aware of it yourself, and things have already happened. There are no memory fragments left, hence no recollection.

When you grow up and reminisce, you find the scar on your finger quite mysterious.

Do you feel nostalgic, wondering why you didn’t cherish your childhood?

Don’t worry, focus on the present, everyone resonates with each other. In reality, everyone feels that childhood was the best, it’s just that you can’t go back to being a child.

In life, people have many similarities.

For example, on summer nights, many people like to cover themselves with a blanket and turn on the air conditioning. Once this habit is formed, it becomes a pattern of life.

Without thinking much, using the psychology’s “cognitive trap” model, you can conclude that many people enjoy covering themselves with a blanket in front of a fan or air conditioning.

Although sometimes it may seem unnecessary, it’s simply the power of habit. It resides in the blind spot of thinking, unable to perceive.

To give a more concrete example, you may not realize that you’re currently breathing, but you are. When you become aware that you’re breathing, you might feel as if breathing is “exhausting.”

Bringing the topic back, sometimes “sadness,” “helplessness,” “disappointment,” are all influenced by the “thinking navigation mode,” dragging your emotions into a low period, without you even realizing it.

When life’s pressures are high, change your mindset. Think about the people who care for you, think about the people you love, think about a beautiful future, then take a deep breath, realizing that life is indeed beautiful.

Occasionally, look at the scar on your index finger, fantasize about that person destined in your fate, it’s not a bad idea. Even if that person has long become someone else’s lover, the unconscious sense of heartache can be a form of enjoyment for you. Shedding tears can be quite a luxurious act at times, so try to show a smile as much as possible.