Many people say, “The more friends, the better.”

People often see the importance of social connections and think that fitting in is the best way to expand their network.

But in life, you often see people who don’t fit in. These people often keep to themselves and don’t feel lonely.

Many people think “unity is strength,” so they look down on those who don’t fit in.

However, many extremely difficult paths are treaded alone, and many challenging problems are overcome by individuals.

Fitting in has its benefits, but not fitting in may not only have downsides. Sometimes, if you realize you don’t fit in, it’s actually a reason to congratulate yourself.

People often say, “University is mostly about socializing.”

So many people become aimless after entering university, thinking that university is meant for enjoyment.

As a result, many people graduate without a resume and struggle to find jobs.

It seems like people in university always go out in groups to eat, drink, and have fun… These have become the daily routine for university students.

I remember in university, there was a guy in my class. In his dorm, there were a total of six people, and he was one of them.

The other five besides him loved playing video games. They played online games every night and sometimes skipped classes during the day to play games.

But he was the only one who kept studying for the postgraduate entrance exam.

The other five in the dorm ostracized him for not fitting in. They excluded him from good things and blamed him for bad things.

Once, due to his not fitting in, it even escalated to the student affairs office.

At that time, the teacher in charge didn’t blame him. Instead, the teacher said to him, “Your current nonconformity will be the pride of your future.”

When the university ended, out of the other five, three couldn’t find jobs, and two who did find jobs were not satisfied. Only he received the admission notice from one of the top domestic universities for a master’s degree.

Sometimes, fitting in a little is good because people always have to deal with others, especially those who live under the same roof. It’s best to maintain good relationships with each other.

But:

“Some are influenced by association, while others are influenced by opposition.”

When you get close to some people, you’ll find yourself improving. But when you get close to others, you’ll find yourself being dragged down with them.

Instead of making friends who make you worse, it’s better to be a bit of a nonconformist and mind your own business.

Perhaps everyone sees fitting in as very important, but sometimes you need to recognize your goals and understand the kind of person you want to become in the future.

If someone becomes a stumbling block on your path to your dreams, what’s the point of fitting in with them?

An author once said a very classic line: “It’s better to compete with like-minded people than argue with fools.”

Once a person matures, they will realize that they should be with those they feel comfortable with.

Being with like-minded people is incredibly relaxing, while being with people who contradict you all the time means you’ll never have a good day.

Being with a group of people with similar personalities, you’ll find life very beautiful, and you’ll find yourself very valuable. Being with a group of people who contradict you, you’ll find no meaning in being with them, and you’ll find yourself at odds.

Gradually, you may even doubt your own abilities and your way of dealing with others.

Everyone has their own value and abilities. But in the eyes of some people who don’t appreciate you, you are worthless, while in the eyes of those who appreciate you, you are their best friend, irreplaceable.

What people truly need to do is not desperately try to fit in, but to find a group of people who truly share the same values.

If one day you find that some people don’t really understand you and you can’t get along with them, there’s no need to force it.

Instead, you should congratulate yourself because your true group of people is still ahead. Once you find them, you will find happiness.

My grandfather once told me a story.

A few years ago, there was a case in our hometown. A thief was caught by the police.

After being caught, everyone in the village went to beat the suspect, but only a young man from the neighboring house remained particularly calm.

When the suspect was being beaten by others, to the point of being injured and losing both shoes, the young man from the neighboring house gave him a pair of slippers.

Many people in the village loudly criticized the young man, thinking that he was someone who didn’t know right from wrong.

However, many years later, the young man went to work in the city and faced many rejections from job interviews.

When he arrived at the entrance of a large jewelry store, hoping for some luck, he didn’t expect that the owner of the store would immediately hire him upon seeing him. In fact, this jewelry store wasn’t short of staff.

It turned out that although the young man didn’t recognize the owner, the owner recognized him. The owner was the suspect who had been beaten by everyone years ago.

After being released from prison, the suspect turned over a new leaf, started from scratch, and became a very successful businessman.

Sometimes, when others are in difficulty, don’t take advantage of the situation, and don’t listen to those around you who pressure you to join in and add more hardship.

As the saying goes:

“Give others a way out, and you give yourself a way out. Treat others with kindness.”

Don’t think that because others are doing bad things, you can do the same. Sometimes, no matter what others do, you must keep a clear mind.

Always keep good intentions. If you realize you have good intentions, even if you don’t fit in, you should stick to your principles.

People often say, “What goes around comes around.”

When others do bad things, and you don’t join them, that’s when you should congratulate yourself.

Fitting in is indeed good, but sometimes, you shouldn’t force yourself to fit in. Sometimes, you shouldn’t go against your own conscience to fit in or do things that harm yourself or others.